То, что они тебя освистали - это их трудности.
В следующий раз дай им эту ссылку:
http://www.php.net/manual/en/configuration.phpТам английским по белому написано, что:
When using PHP as an Apache module, you can also change the configuration settings using directives in Apache configuration files and .htaccess files.
With PHP 3.0, there are Apache directives that correspond to each configuration setting in the php3.ini name, except the name is prefixed by "php3_".
With PHP 4.0, there are several Apache directives that allow you to change the PHP configuration from within the Apache configuration file itself.
php_value name value
This sets the value of the specified variable.
php_flag name on|off
This is used to set a Boolean configuration option.
php_admin_value name value
This sets the value of the specified variable. "Admin" configuration settings can only be set from within the main Apache configuration files, and not from .htaccess files.
php_admin_flag name on|off
This is used to set a Boolean configuration option.
Example 3-2. Apache configuration example
php_value include_path ".:/usr/local/lib/php"
php_flag safe_mode on
php3_include_path ".:/usr/local/lib/php"
php3_safe_mode on
Вот в принципе и пример из .htaccess